Holiday Love Languages and Gift Giving

The holiday’s are a time of immense pleasure and pressure, especially when it comes to giving gifts.

When it comes to gift giving I often think of the 5 Love Languages written by Gary Chapman. I read this book many years ago and it had a profound impact on me- it helped me navigate relationships and gave me insight into my own biases and frustrations within relationships.

During the holidays, there is a lot of emphasis and pressure on material gifts. Has anyone felt this immense sense that you had to pick out the perfect gift for your family members or be ostracized for eternity?! Many people feel this way and trudge on with buying gifts that feel disconnected for the receiver. Have you ever given a gift that felt disconnected and then harbored this sense of being inauthentic? I am guilty of this for sure.

And, the reality is that for some people, a material gift is the most meaningful for them. One of the love languages happens to be receiving gifts.

Did you know there are also 4 other love languages?

The other four are physical touch, acts of service, quality time and words of affirmation.

Once you can pinpoint friends and family members love languages gift giving may feel more authentic and less pressure ridden for you. And, ultimately, more meaningful for them.

Imagine giving your best friend who’s love language is quality time a fun planned day together?

Or, your partner who’s love language is acts of service a set of tokens for your least favorite tasks around the house that your partner just doesn't have time for right now?

What about a meaningful letter for your grandmother who’s love language is words of affirmation listing all the wonderful things she taught you growing up?

Gift giving in this mentality will not only fill the soul of those you are giving to, it will also fill your soul knowing you’re authentically connecting to what feels meaningful for them.

You can take the free quiz to find your love language, and potentially others, at

I highly recommend purchasing the book if the above resonates with you- I refer back to this book all the time.

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I was not asked to advertise 5 Love Languages or compensated in any way for this blog post.

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